I’m sorry he grabbed a toy from your son, but I don’t think that gives you – an adult – the right to act as impetuously as he did.
He made a bad choice… something five year olds are prone to doing.
Yes, he made your three year old cry, but there was no malicious act involved. He simply took a toy.
If you hadn’t come in guns-a-blazing, there would have been the opportunity for a real, teachable moment. Instead my son was shocked, on the brink of tears and, understandably, dropped the toy when you started yelling at him… at which point you accused him of “throwing the toy”. (What?!?)
As I sat nearby, watching all this unfold, I was *this close* to coming over and intervening. And, if you had said another word, I would have. But to be honest, I was trying to stay calm and didn’t want the ordeal escalating any more than it already had. And there’s something to be said for letting kids deal with their mistakes.
I was trying to be the example that my son deserves, not a raving lunatic.
So, to the dad who yelled at my son…
I hope you saw the anguish and tears in his eyes when he ran to me, buried his face in my lap, and fiercely bawled his eyes out.
I hope you saw how your actions made him feel worse than anything he did to your son.
I hope you feel remorse knowing that your behaviour – and the example you’re setting for your child – was reprehensible.
And I hope you realize that the only bully in this situation is you.